Excerpt from “Be Happy Now”

A common refrain that I have often heard people say begins with, “I’ll be happy when…”

“I’ll be happy when… I have more money.”

“I’ll be when… this relationship is fixed.”

“I’ll be happy when… I find the time to relax and have some fun.”

A close cousin to this phrase is, “I won’t be happy until…”

“I won’t be happy until… I’m out of debt.”

“I won’t be happy until… I can quit this job.”

If you ever utter these words to yourself, remember this: Whatever you use in your life to fill in these blanks has the same end result: You assume that you are currently lacking something, you are incomplete, and you will become whole again only after something in your life changes in the future. The trouble is that tomorrow never comes, now is put off yet another day, and you can never feel satisfied because even if circumstances do change to complete your life, there will always be items on your “To do” list that cause you to mentally postpone completeness until some time in the future. In other words, you have placed your fulfillment in a space outside of yourself, onto your future timeline where you can’t reach it.

Why can’t you reach it? Because happiness can never be enjoyed in the future, only in the “here and now.”

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One Response to “Excerpt from “Be Happy Now””

  1. Marga says:

    Came to your webblog through Reddit. You know I am signing up to your rss feed.

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