Excerpt from “Be Happy Now”

February 9th, 2011

A common refrain that I have often heard people say begins with, “I’ll be happy when…”

“I’ll be happy when… I have more money.”

“I’ll be when… this relationship is fixed.”

“I’ll be happy when… I find the time to relax and have some fun.” Read the rest of this entry »

Excerpt from “Do What Makes Your Heart Sing”

February 4th, 2011

“Wait for a bite!” the dad shouted to his young daughter. The little girl reeled her line in once again only to find an empty hook. Just moments before, tired of watching the plastic red and white fishing bobber float peacefully on the surface of the water, she grew impatient, and pretended to do all the things that real fisherman do. She yanked the pole fiercely from side to side and reeled in the fishing line, finally dislodging the last of her bait. Read the rest of this entry »

Comfort for Parents

January 31st, 2011

My favorite Yiddish word is “kvell,” which is when parents and grandparents gush with pride over their little offsprings. This past week, I got to kvell for an entire day! Read the rest of this entry »

The gift that keeps on giving…

January 17th, 2011

On a recent trip to Cape Cod – Chatham, Massachusetts to be exact – my family encountered an unusual behavior on the part of motorists. The first time we saw it, we thought it must be an aberration. But then it kept happening, again and again. How strange! Read the rest of this entry »

Yet another way to feel good

January 3rd, 2011

Every day without fail we all have things to do. Some of them may be exciting and highly desirable whereas others may be rather unpleasant but necessary. Most activities probably fall somewhere in between. It’s rather easy to be in a positive frame of mind when engaging in desirable activities, but what about the rest? Read the rest of this entry »

Your “To Be” List

December 27th, 2010

My Dear Readers… If you want to experience a brand new and wonderful way of looking at each aspect of your everyday life, go to Amazon.com and find Your To Be List: Turn Those Dreaded To-Do’s Into Meaningful Moments Every Day by Lauren Rosenfeld and James McMahon.

Most of us are inundated with responsibilities every day. Many if not most of them appear, at first glance at least, to be mundane aspects of our existence that threaten to steal away our precious time for doing more important – more meaningful – activities. The beauty of having a To Be list is that all of our activities become filled with the potential to be transformed from the mundane to the sacred, through a simple shift in attitude that is easy for anyone to make at virtually any time. Once this happens, every moment of our lives becomes meaningful. Nothing is wasted. This marvelous book shows you how to make that shift. Once you do, your life will never be the same. I highly recommend it!

Wish them well

December 8th, 2010

Comfort, Healing, and Joy is all about cultivating happiness. For some people, happiness is a natural ability – a talent, if you will, not unlike talent in any other area such as math, art, writing or sports. For others, happiness is a skill that can be learned and expanded, not something handed to them on a silver platter from the time of birth.

A big part of having more happiness, and less unhappiness, is identifying those habits that make the difference between the two. Fortunately, merely recognizing the choice of habits is enough to make a huge difference in how you feel about yourself, and about others. A decision point is like a fork in the road. Once you see the fork ahead of you, you get to decide which road to pick. Read the rest of this entry »

Life’s Great Paradox

December 6th, 2010

Have you ever noticed that when something bothers you, the more you want it to go away, and the stronger it becomes? There’s an old cliché, “What we resist, persists.”

I have personally experienced this phenomenon numerous times… the hard way. You would think eventually I would learn!

Here is an example:

Let’s say there were a part of yourself that you don’t like… no, make that a part of you that you hate! Read the rest of this entry »

What’s so funny!

November 28th, 2010

“You’ll never amount to anything”

“What’s the use in trying. It won’t make any difference in the long run.”

“You’re ugly because you’re too fat. No one will ever want you.”

On a daily basis, thoughts run through our heads at some point. Some of them are positive, nurturing thoughts. Others… well… not so much!

If you are human (and that means you!), you have experienced negative thoughts, probably on a regular basis. Such thoughts can become bad feelings if we identify with them, dwell on them, take them too seriously.

Comfort, Healing, and Joy contains a number of exercises designed to take the emotional charge out of potentially damaging thoughts. One powerful technique to quickly and effectively take the sting out of such thoughts is to “call them out.” Read the rest of this entry »

Give yourself a special gift this Thanksgiving

November 23rd, 2010

So often we hear about how important it is to be grateful… grateful for our health (if we are fortunate enough to have that), grateful for our friends and family, grateful for food to eat and shelter to protect us. There are so many things to feel grateful for!

Yet, many of us forget to be grateful for… ourselves. Oh yes, it’s easy to give an intellectual nod to self-appreciation when asked. But I am speaking of a genuine, heartfelt love and appreciation of one’s self that we feel in our gut.

Some people no doubt merely forget to acknowledge themselves, or put it on the back burner. Others find it somehow strange or selfish, even immoral, or simply haven’t even thought about it. Read the rest of this entry »